You meet someone at a bar while out having drinks with your friends, make small talk then exchange phone numbers, and after a few text, while lying in your bed, you become curious of who this person actually is. With just seven digits saved in your phone, you can usually unlock the world of someone else without ever really knowing their full name. Scary I know, but admit it because we have all done it. I call it…
Some might call it stalking, but I didn’t ask them now did I. Who knows if I am wrong and honestly I really don’t care. With anything you do in life, especially school projects, you are always taught to do your research to back up your statements, and in the case of a potential date, I like to do my research.
DISCLAIMER: To all past, present, and future dates of myself and my readers, your dirty laundry is about to come out, so I suggest before you get busted, CLEAN IT UP!!!!
You read that first paragraph, and now I know you are nosey, BUSTED, but this is what you have waited for. I am going to tell you exactly how to go about doing your dating investigation!
Usually, this is where I start. The reason being is because most people don’t know that unless you turn off “who can look you up using the phone number you provided” in Privacy Settings and Tools, anyone can simply type a phone number into the search bar, and 9/10 times a profile will pop up. Another thing most people don’t know is unless you set your “who can see my stuff” to “friends only,” most of your general information is still available to view. Facebook is truly the holy grail of dating investigating.
If you want to be a little more professional, LinkedIn is the place to go. Generally, you can find current employment information on Facebook, but if not, you can try typing in the name of the person you are searching and filter by location.
PRO TIP: Make sure you are not logged into your own LinkedIn account while searching. If you do find the person you are looking for and click on their profile, it will show your name under the “who’s viewed your profile” section.
Instagram/ Twitter/ Snapchat:
These two are a little trickier to crack because most people don’t use their real name as their username. One way around that is to find their social media handles within their Facebook timeline. If they do the direct post from either social media accounts, it will automatically link. Once you click on the post it will open a new window of their other social media account. If they are anything like me, once you have cracked one username, their other social media usernames are all the same.
PRO TIP: If their account is private when you search via Instagram or Twitter, go back into Facebook. The third-party link posted on their Facebook timeline allows for you to see that individual post. You still won’t be able to see the entire account, but it’s better than nothing. Nonetheless, this is extreme and can be way too time-consuming because you will have to click on each posted link one at a time.
You now have all the tips and tricks to succeed in your date investigation, however with a slight, and I do mean slight, guilty feeling as I type this I have to add a few disclaimers.
- Depending on how far you decide to investigate, you can become extremely judgmental. You will start comparing your past to your present, and without knowing the truth behind a picture or a post, you might them off way too early.
- You have been nosey, but now you could lose the natural chemistry that is formed in person and through conversation because of your influenced observation. You focus on one or two details that you think you have learned and sometimes become fixated only on the negatives. You don’t see the growth or accept the person for who they are today. We all have skeletons in our closets, and I am sure you don’t want everyone knowing all of your dirty little secrets.